Someone suggest H is having a MLC....I don't know?

[Queen_of_Swords]

Mach1 said:
"Is it clear ?
Was it clear ?
Look Scylla, nobody here is against you....
I would venture that everyone is rooting for you here...

I do appreciate that no one is against me. I understand you're trying to expose the root to the stump that was my marriage and set of beliefs about it, and myself.
I am trying to answer as best I can. Words are not always the best way. I won't say reading any of this is an unemotional process for me. I am easily brought to tears these days.


"You do have some thinking to do...
Thinking, that would involve removing your Husband from any conclusion.....
That is the first step in detaching...
Find the center of your convictions and work toward those things for now..

What are some things for you ?"


.... and that's where my problem lies. Remove my husband from the conclusion, you say. Fine, so I do this; then what is the difference between doing this and just going with his wish to divorce and calling it quits?
How is it any different from having the mindset of treating and thinking of him like a stranger or a once upon a time highschool sweetheart?

If I am not considering him as part of the conclusion then dissolving financial, property, physical, emotional ties, and living my life on my terms with our kids (whom I already parent primarily by myself), and meeting my very real need for emotional intimacy, affection and sex with someone else who IS willing to meet those needs seems more reasonable and healthy. Harbouring an unrequited love and continuing to live with my needs unmet, is not how I wish to live.