I like that approach much better also. Remember this whole thing is a chess game the goal is to slowly and methodically make your moves. Anytime you slip you actually give the opponent (W) the upper hand. At least that is how I've been looking at it. If I don't, I am going to go insane. If she takes this thing all the way I will smile all the way there even though inside I will be dying.
Something my W always did very well was always giving the impression everything was great, to friends, family and anyone. She use to always say "I am mad as hell but I am not going to let them know that." Well she is using that same technique with me now. She is giving the impression everything is alright and relishing in the fact that I am hurting because she can sit and say “I was a good wife and you were not a good husband to me. I am justified. Now you see I was right all along, you should of done a better job of taking care of me. Well if I change my tactic and pretend life is great she might think “I can’t believe he is over me and he is happy.” The risk I run with this is she might think I never cared to begin with but I think I have made an A$$ out of myself plenty to assure her that I have been in pieces. Time to change the rules a little bit; by the way I am feeling pretty down tonight don’t know what happened just hit me out of nowhere.
