Is the tide turning???????

[Sanderika]

OH ((((GAG))))

You and XH had a wonderful evening of re-connecting.

I love it that he was raring, ready and expecting to go out after TT, I am so excited for you. Last night with you was a place of refuge for XH away from all his troubles. He chose to spend hours with you. THIS IS HUGE!!!!!!

I agree with Missher,

Keep your expectations at bay. AND you must bury your thoughts of criticizing his comments. NEVER DO IT!!!!
AND...
XH is thinking about you as more than TT partner and thinking about you when not with you!!!

To truly have a chance at a great future together you must remember and practice at letting go of his "you've got to be kidding me" insane comments and the past problems that separated you two in the first place.

It's a new beginning with new thoughts and ideas and it's been fun so far making a reconnection. Keep moving forward with what you have been doing....it's working great for you.

Take every opportunity to make him feel good when he is with you.

I am very sorry that X-MIL is not doing well. For that reason, you should have the expectation that XH will be moody. It's up to you to "be there" in mind and body for him. He knows you love X-MIL very much and he will need to lean on you. This will be a very difficult time for him. I lived this with my H 6 years ago. So...be there and listen and validate and share some tender moments about her from the past and even laugh about stories and things she has done. It will be good for both of you.

Sexual Intimacy is a Love Language for most men...BUT, I would hesitate to rush XH into a physical more intimate situation at the moment. I think it would be better to work a while longer at having fun together and "lure" him slowly with your charm and unconditional love and support. I would rather it be a mutual decision that was made after a solid reconnection is in place and where there is more contact during the week, not just for TT. IMO....If you and XH were to rush into a sexual situation right now I would be afraid XH would bolt after out of fear due to the fact he is still a bit messed up in a MLC state. That would set your hard work back a long way.

I would continue with the warm hugs and little kisses. Sweet comments are always a great idea. Make XH feel worth and desired when with you.

This is sooooo much fun!!!!

Sanderika