When I would start to get upset and I could see the conversation start to go badly, I could visualize two paths. One was the bad conversation and while it would feel good to stomp down, it wasn't the one I usually wanted because of all the work we had both put in.
The other path required me to pull back and talk gently, readdress things.
Doing that, to be able to actually see where the conversation would likely lead, took some time. Still happens sometimes.
Oh I got upset and mad alot, but were my emotions driving me? Or was I in control of my emotions?
Something I still do and hopefully never forget to do, is to do something, say something, show her something that reminds her everyday of why she loves me. Yeah...I know that is sooo Hallmark Expersions its hurting your sweet tooth, but it works for me.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
