As far as I can tell from your post above, you are doing the right thing, and yes, it feels very wrong, but that's the mantra of MWD's book. The 180's. What "feels right" never seems to work in these situations. You have to do the opposite. Detachment and sticking to it is very hard. Just keep posting and talking to everyone here who will support you through it. (((HUGS)))
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
