I can say that I am finding a huge amount of happiness alone. I'm finding it with friends, yes, but I also really love that I can sit and read at night before I go to bed and no one's complaining about the light being on :-)
Yeah I'm not saying that I need a man to be happy, I'm just saying that I understand it if TAMF wants/yearns for someone to look her way and validate her self-esteem about her attractiveness. That's all. If the only man who ever says you're beautiful or notices you in that way for 20 years was your husband, I think when he suddenly says "nope, I feel nothing towards you" or "I don't think of you romantically anymore" you suddenly feel, in a word, ugly. And I think it makes perfect sense if you want to get some kind of external validation of that. It's normal, at least according to this book Eric told me to read. It can help you with getting your self-esteem back. But it's just a small part of your self-esteem. The larger part is achieved in countless other ways.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
