Here is the thing...I agree that you do not NEED to show EVERYONE that you have to be alone. I think the alone time that everyone may be referencing is not a physical aloneness (sp??) but rather a period of introspection that can (in most cases) only occur when you are not preoccupied with someone else, wanting someone else, thinking about someone else or being with someone else.
Having said this, I do believe that one can do this introspection and still have healthy relationship with friends and even friends of the opposite sex. The difference is having a friendship with the opposite sex that one wishes would turn into something else.
At the end of the day TAMF, you must decide what is best for YOU. You know yourself better than anyone else – the hard part of “knowing yourself” is being honest with yourself.
FTR, think about this “I wish everyone understood” statement for a second and ask yourself this…..
How many times did I say I was done and everyone said I was not?
How many times did people on these boards say don’t touch the stove cause you’ll get burned and you did it anyway?
How many times did people say to you…you’re not as detached as you may think and you thought…yes I am, only to realize that you are not?
How many times have you responded on this thread with a “I know ya’ll are right”?
So believe me, many understand.
We all care about each other and that is the greatest thing about these boards – we challenge, we push, we do not give each space for excuses. Why? Cause at the end of the day, we all want to ensure that each of us is as healthy as we can be.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
