I have been taking the kids almost every weekend somewhere without her. Sometimes just one of them. The age difference in the kids makes it hard to make both happy at the same place.
I tried a indoor waterpark and it was a nightmare. How do you go on waterslides and stuff with a 7 year old, when you have to stay in the baby pool with the 3 year old? W's mom has always gone with her when it came to these things. I really don't have anybody to help with something like this.
I have never tried the multiple day, overnight thing. I will keep this in mind and try to come up with something.
H-40 W-38 Together-20 Married-12 boy-7 girl-3 bomb-9/17/10 No papers live together No affair
LOL - I hear you. I have taken all 3 of mine out a times (even swimming on my own) and my friends think I'm crazy. To be honest the more you do the more you get used to it. I've kind of always been that way, but usually it was with my W. Same thing thought with the age differance. They don't always like the same things - I guess at least I have all girls which makes it a little easier.
I've also been thinking lately that we should try to get back to doing more family stuff (me the W and the kids) like we used to do, because us both doing seperate things in my eyes seems to be preparing us for the eventual split. I guess if my W finds it difficult then maybe it's a good thing - but I mostly imagine that she would take solice in the fact that she can "do it as single mother".
I guess when I plan things with kids I'll just have to start asking my W if she wants to join us more often.
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
Everytime we have all done things as a family she is really uncomfortable.
Do you guilt her in to joining or does she feel obligated to go with you? I guess it probably depends what the activity is...
Uhhhh, this whole thing is so complicated. We all want to detach, because I think we all see at least the sitch do not get worse when you detach. At same time, we don't want them to take it as the fact that we've bought into their insane plan. (Please note I erased insane, and then put it back because I know someone is going to tell me it's wrong - but the reality is I don't see how someone "walking away" from a R that has consumed half of your life without doing everything you can do to ensure it's the right thing to do - is...well insane in my mind.
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
I just tell her what we are doing and see if she want's to join. She usually does, even though I don't think she wants to. Then it ruins it for me because she is such a downer.
If they would just get positive like we are doing we could get somewhere.
H-40 W-38 Together-20 Married-12 boy-7 girl-3 bomb-9/17/10 No papers live together No affair
After the $2500 dollar vacumn, and all these packages, and today is her day off and she went shopping, am I also battling MLC or something?
The UPS guy asked if I was interested in some sort of business rates since he delivers almost everyday. He thought we had a business out of our house because we are having so much delivered. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrgggghhh.
1. Wants D. doesn't like me
2. On Syntroid for hypothyrodism. can cause depression.
3. MLC?
Is there anything else?
H-40 W-38 Together-20 Married-12 boy-7 girl-3 bomb-9/17/10 No papers live together No affair
2. On Syntroid for hypothyrodism. can cause depression.
3. MLC?
Maybe it would help you to read some books on depression.
Sorry that there is no movement in your sich but such is the nature of depression.
Here is a list of books on depression, maybe make a trip to the library and see what you can find.
Depression:
The Depression Source Book by Brian P. Quinn, C.S.W., Ph.D. Understanding Depression by Raymond DePaul, Jr., M.D. The Secret Strength of Depression by Frederic Flac I Don't Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real Unmasking Male Depression by Archibald Hart The Pain Behind The Mask: Overcoming Masculine Depression by John Lynch, Christopher T. Kilmarting The Noonday Demon, An Atlas of Depression by Andrew Solomon Depression, Questions You Have...Answers You Need by Sandra Salmans
Nothing that you are going to DO is going to help. You can only understand what is going on. You can make it worse but you can't make it better. It is frustrating, I understand that but the sooner you understand the easier it will be for YOU.
The Marriage Breakthrough can be used by couples. Keeping Love Alive is designed for one or both partners. Divorce Remedy can be used by both but is best used by one of you.
Hope that helps.
If your partner is not interested in working with you, don't try to get him/her to use the materials, it will backfire.
I wonder since your W is showing absolutely no progress what would happen if one night you came home and took a shower got some nice close and went out without saying a word, leave your phone at home return 3-4 hours in the best mood possible and got to bed.
I wonder if she would show any emotion then.
Ofcourse I am no expert if I was I wouldn't be here talking to you
