If going dark is not working for you, then try some contact. Perhaps an email every so often when yu find something he would enjoy or find funny.
The "friends" thing is wierd for me. I know that if you aren't friends, well... But, I think that them saying they want to be friends is just their way of defining what you won't be.
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I am running out of time when the D will be final. My plan was to still DB even tho the D was happening no matter what.
Has this changed?
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At this juncture should I stand down? This is so painful and a part of me feels like I should give up yet another part of me doesn't.
You stand down if and when you are ready. Which part of you has the stronger voice? Do you want to give up b/c you don't want to look like a fool? If you are thinking about this (and I have alot over time), consider that looking/feeling foolish is just one perspective. What do you believe about you?
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I have ALOT of people say he will have regret. How can a WAS/MLC'r be so damn cavalier about leaving their marriage like it was just a speedbump in the road? Like so a matter of fact. I don't understand how a person can be so unfeeling.
He may have regrets and you may never know. That's just the reality of all of this. As far as his being unfeeling and cavalier, if he is MLC, his world is messed up. Either way, I think most of them hurt more than we know and running is all they can think of to get away from the pain. As hard as it is and as angry as it can make you at times, try to look on him with some compassion. This isn't easy, but IMO it is ultimately worth it.
In the mean time, what are you doing to take care of you?
