TAMF's Christmas Miracle?

[PEI]

Feisty???

Bring it ... I’ve been around this block a couple of times ... and up until pretty recently I was the YOU in the equation, so remember your audience ... I’m not letting you off the hook that easily. Why not? You might ask ... because you are capable of more. So rationalize and justify till your little hearts content ... and when you’re ready to dig ... I’ll hold your handbag while you shovel ...

what can I say...I am eternally driven to men? who the F knows?!

Well, for starters, YOU would if you would slow the F down and take the time you need to dig this out.

Maybe it is the fact that I am craving sex? Never in my life have I been without, and to be honest it occupies a lot of my brain right now. I think about sex all of the time.

Human nature. We want what we can’t have. Recognize it for what it is. For what it’s worth, I’d never gone without either ... doesn’t mean I can’t or won’t.

TMI???

Pfffftttt. Have you read my thread???

At least I am honest. I want sex!!!! I feel like I am dying without it.

Gimme a break. Dying? Really? Perspective TAMF, perspective.

But I have never been a promiscuous woman. Ever. So I don't want to become one, and I won't.

Well I have and I’m glad to see you’re not INTENDING to go down that path. It wouldn’t serve you.

Can you girls just allow me this?? I am so deprived.

NO. Franky, you sound like a whiny child. <<<TAMF stomping feet>>>
What would you say to your daughter who came to you and said:

MOOOOMMMMMYY!!!! I want candy for supper! I don’t care that it’s not what’s best for me ... I haven’t had candy in 3 days and I sooooo want candy!!!! CANDY! CANDY! CANDY! Candy tastes so good ... it makes me happy ... it makes me feel good ... I WANT CANDY!!! And I know I don’t NEED candy ... I CAN eat vegetables and healthy food ... I don’t NEED candy ... I just WANT candy, I’m just CHOOSING candy!

You say that my happiness is wrapped up in the idea of a man. I say that I am completely capable of living alone with my girls, working my as* off everyday, contributing to my community in ways that others have never even thought of, paying my bills, cleaning my house, being a wonderful loving friend. I can do all of this, because I am doing this. And if I have to do this alone for the rest of my life?...

... There is NOTHING wrong with the fact that I LOVE being in a relationship. LOVE IT. It brings me happiness plain and simple.

You guys can bash me as much as you want, but I can be alone - I JUST DON'T WANT TO!

I’m calling bullchit on this one.What Alb said. In spades. (Oh, and for the record ... no one is "bashing" you ... )

And ya know why I think so ... cause I said it too. Not that long ago. And I’m standing here telling you I was full of chit. Yup. And I didn’t know it ... because I wasn’t alone. I posted my story, you’re all aware of it by now ... but I will tell you this ... some of this stuff you HAVE to process while you are alone. You can’t dig out why you are afraid to be alone ... if you aren’t. Period.

I want a loving relationship.

Who doesn’t??? But I don’t see WANT ^^^ up there ... I see NEED. And I’m not the only one .....

Like I said, I can do all of this SHEOT alone forever and still have fun in life...but if I want to be HAPPY, I will want to share my life with someone I love.

That made me sad.

Listen TAMF, girlfriend I know where you are. I know how you feel and I know how riled up you probably are right now. "You know what you want, you know you don’t need it and you know you will choose to not be alone." I know it ALL TOO WELL. Ask Cat, and Mach, and Grit, and everyone else who challenged me and helped me push through ...

I also see strength. You are posting here knowing you will be challenged. That takes strength. And courage. The kind of strength and courage you will need to truly dig in and find that woman we all know is still beneath the surface ...

Peace
PEI