Since someone...called me out of my hiatus I decided to respond.
TAMF,
Here goes...
The attention that you seek from a male is IMO, for one reason...to avoid you from looking at WHY YOU NEED (I know you said WANT) a man in YOUR life. I know, I've done it.
The male companionship that you seek, is so that you get the external validation, which FTR, is really normal. However, it is how you look for this validation and WHAT you are willing to do to get the validation that you must look at.
For example, if you are really going out to flirt with the sole purpose of having some dude make YOU feel good, well that IMO is probably not the best approach. IF you go out and for some reaons someone starts to flirt with YOU, well then that is a different story. Can you see the difference?
In one case you are LOOKING FOR IT, in the other is just happens.
My "non professional advice"....pick up a few packs of batteries
Seriously, take a step back and think about this. It is hard, trust me I know. WHY do you NEED/WANT the male response. On one hand you say you love your H, on the other you want so attention...probably becuase you are not getting it from your H. So let's play this out....
You go out and start flirting with a guy, he gives you his number. You go back home, and sit on it for a while. Then in a few days when the need for male attention has not been met, you call him. I am not going to suggest that anything would happen..but if it were me, I would probably say it is a safe bet that something WOULD happen. Okay, so you feel better for a day, maybe two days...guess what? What happens if this guy loses interest? What happens if you lose interest in him? What if this guy were your H? Once the interest is lost, do you go out looking again, and again...and again...?
Stop looking for it TAMF, let it just come to YOU. Easier said then done. Trust me I know.
In case your wondering, in my recent sitch...i did not go looking, she found me. Was the right time? Who the hell knows.
Please TAMF, stop looking and let it come to you, what may come to you may really surprise you.
You actually may find the TAMF that you are looking for - I think you will.
Take that step....
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
