wife planning long term separation

[ironMan]

Well, shaves ... a lot of your story is the same as mine.

I'm 31 yrs old. I have one daughter, who is almost 2. And my wife decided that she needed to separate as a stepping point to divorce and she is going to look at apartments tomorrow.

Everything told you above by Denver, and FOBD, and tjack and others is correct. Just worry about you. Enjoy your kids ... they're amazing aren't they? Be happy around your wife even if you don't want to. Enjoy life. Go for a walk .... when you feel like the world is closing in on you and this is a disaster that will end your life .... go somewhere ... take the kids for a drive, take them to the park ... just change your location for a bit. This won't kill you ... but our caveman brains can't distinguish between actual life threats (a sabre tooth tiger, will kill you) and the fear of your wife leaving you (won't kill you)

Always be sunny when she is around and act confident ... cry on your own time if you want. As time goes you will want to cry less and less.

DETACH .... you REALLY can't control what your W does. We tried that didn't we? Did it work? Nope, she's gotta find her own road. Don't expect anything from her and you won't be disappointed. Don't ask for sex ... don't try to kiss her ... pretend she's a nice roomate. The less you expect, the less you will feel disappointment.

Any hobbies you have thought about but haven't done? Going for a run is free ... and when you run (I lift weights) you feel like a man again. Not a kid that is being abandoned by somebody you trusted.

We're in this with you. As FOBD said ... we are BITS (brothers in the sh*t).