WAW tearing up our family

[ironMan]

I did so well last night. I set some boundaries "no, I'm not interested in moving out of the house" ... and "that furniture will be staying with me" ... while being calm and pleasant about it.

I told her that I didn't think this was the right thing, but understood that she felt like she needed to go live somewhere else.

Just the whole time ... I was firm, but pleasant, not too concerned, I validated her feelings and protected my boundaries.

I went to bed with a smile on my face :-)

I am doing quite well detaching, but also making her do the work to separate. I don't expect anything out of her ... and am not disappointed.

I know she intends to move out ... and when she does it will be fine. I am making sure that I stay her friend while protecting myself.


BITS!!!!!!
this sh*t s*cks .... but it'll be alright