W said that to me last night, "You haven't changed, you're just following some rules from some book". But, I know I have changed. I would recommend hiding it.
I have given up the bed though. I felt it was my gift to her, to give her "space", even though she's offered once or twice for me to have it.. I tell her that I respect her wanting space right now.
Me-37 W-37 Married-14 SS17, D11, S5 Bomb: 12/13/10 WAW one foot out the door.