Habit, it's easy to get frustrated and question god. I feel I've come along way in this whirlwind the past 1 1/2 years but we all get those feelings or thoughts. Bonds messages keep me grounded that what im doing is right. My wife is no longer at home so i'm getting a life. Does it feel normal? No this is tough stuff. Hang in there. I know you see no progress and its frustrating. Take it from a former MLCer. Do not read into what she is doing. You cannot understand it unless you've been there. Let her take her journey and you take yours wherever that may lead.