The idea of having to "put up" with our selfish, self absorbed, centered spouses.
It is only a sacrifice if you look at it that way.
If you suffer from it. And you will if you look at it as something they are doing TO you.
Originally Posted By: Scylla
I won't have to be the one that has to continually change to keep a relationship functioning, turning myself inside out every time he decides that the relationship, or I'm not good enough for him.
What guarantee do you have of that? You chose your H and you lived with him all these years.
What makes you think you would make a different choice today?
First. I am not making excuses for H's behavior.
Or anyone's. But it is their choice. Your choice is how you let it affect you.
You can be a victim, you can be the retaliator, you can be one who runs away.
Or
You be who you want to be in spite of what others choose.
Which one do you have control over?
So your M. It sukcs right now.
When you got married on that day so long ago did you say:
"I will love and honor you all the days of my life, in sickeness and health....
BUT
if you get scared and lose your way. If you get so scared you run away...
I won't."
?
Those were your words. Only you can live them and it is time to decide what they mean to you
And
If you will let another compromise what you believe and how to express that by living your own truth.
Tough stuff here Scylla. This isn't for the willy nilly folk to endeavor.
What are you prepared to do if you are not assured your M can be saved?
This is all about you Scylla. You choose for you.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
