Yes do not respond back. Right now he is in the teenager mode and is trying tp press your buttons to get you to respond. He's trying to control the situation and believes you are the bad guy. For some reason, the WAS has an issue with control.
They feel that because they re miserable, something or someone must be making it that way. So they look around and the first person they see is the spouse. They direct all of their frustration and anger at that person. They don't realize that a healthy person looks at themselves first and does all the reading and C that we have done.
This is what's going to happen. He is going to continue to egg you on into a fight like a 7 year old. Don't fall for it. He's also going to start hitting below the belt. Don't stand for it. Keep the contact only about the kids.
Next time he says that he will be somewhere by a certain time, if he's not there, then leave. That's you establishing a boundary. It's showing him that you are not going to be dragged along with his drama any longer. When you take the focus off of you, he will have no choice but to look at himself and his own issues. Not blaming others.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
