I have been there so many times and every time I get sucked back in she turns cold and it just ends up hurting me.
It is much better to try to just stay away from our Xs.
My view is that if our Xs love us and want us back then they will do whatever it takes to contact us.
You are not wrong there! I do think in their strange way they do still love us, but they are so messed up and so unprepared to do anything about it. I think they also want to sucker us back in because they get high on control. These are people who at a crucial developmental stages felt unloved and out of control of their lives. They often say they 'escaped' their birth families So they act out the desire to be in control, [probably unconsciously].
We are healthier without them in our lives, although I admire very much those who foster and encourage the 'baby steps' back to the relationship.
