Regarding the FIL thing don't know him but it is very hard to fight with a person who is nice. My W use to say "kill with kindness" I am confrontational by nature, but she was right. Perfect example:
If she was being a B&^%$ to me this whole I would not be hurting or even seeking to correct myself at all. The fact that she has been nice to me most of the time makes me crazy and makes me cry like a babbling idiot
