The strategy is sound. Someone told me it's ok to cry, cry and then cry some more. Oh wait! That was you! We are here brother! Also I don't know if this will make any sense but I have started to look at this as a game of chess. She acts and you react in a way that she does not expect. When she says’s something that normally will cause some reaction do the opposite. If I look at it as a game of chess then my mood changes because now I can kind of take the emotion out and plan ahead.
I will not give my wife the chance to see me angry or upset. I will be happy and now I smile when she calls even if I am feeling down I keep a smile on my face the whole time I am talking it forces me to sound friendly and happy even if I am not. After she leaves scream cry and curse the day but while she is there keep it in check.
Since I am super competitive it is now a competition to me she sounds happy I sound happier. She smiles I smile bigger. If we go down the D route and she leaves my life I will no longer give her negative memories to remember me by. I will not give her that victory. I will remain strong and content. The angrier I become the more she is justified in her actions the more sure she becomes in her actions.