Shaves,
Tjack is right. Don't argue right now. Agree without cheating yourself. His example conversations are right on. I can attest that I have used this on my W over the past two weeks and it seems to have made a difference. Also, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. When she fell in love with you, I guarantee at some point she was attracted to your strength. Being a doormat will not be attractive. It took me a month to figure that out. Well, actually, I didn't figure it out. I learned it by reading the DR.

No, don't show her the DR. That is your secret weapon. Keep it to yourself and read in privacy. If she sees you reading it, she will know where you are getting your new "self" and shewill think it is the book and not you making the changes. Read it and get back to us with your thoughts.

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...