Need advice please!!! Not sure on next move?

[FellOnBlackDays]

Dixie,
You did great! You were calm, collected and DB'ed, which is important. As for why he did that, who knows. But, don't do what I do... don't let your mind get the best of you. Unfortunately, I would have done the same thing. I would have immediately started cooking up all these horrible things in my head about why a text versus a call. Especially since I am convinced my W is having an EA via texting. But, try not to do it. Stop and tell yourself, "maybe he is really sick." He really could be. Or, maybe he is having a bad day and does feel like he can face you right now. That would actually make you the bigger person. I suspect some of my W's avoidance is because she is really wrestling with some serious guilt since she left. So, instead of jumping to the conclusion that he is sleeping with someone else, for now, give him the benefit of the doubt until he gives you a reason to think otherwise. As numerous people have stated here before, only believe 50% of what you see and nothing of what you hear.

Now, I would like to make a suggestion. Take it or leave it. You may want to do what I did. Politely request that all future interactions will have to be by phone. No emails, no texting. Here is what I told my W. "I no longer want to communicate by texting or emails because there are no facial expressions or tone of voice in a text or email. That can lead to misunderstandings and unnecessary arguments and hurt feelings. A person-to-person call is genuine and easy to interpret. Considering we are in this tough time, let's not put ourselves in a situation where something could be misunderstood and lead to a bad situation." You know, she smiled and stated she could not argue with that. Give it a try. If it works, go have a nice steak dinner and dedicate that first juicy bite to me. :-)

Remember, the only easy day here is yesterday!

B.I.T.S.

FOBD