Someone suggest H is having a MLC....I don't know?

[Queen_of_Swords]

I can't answer if I'm in or out. Not now. One day I'm confident and hopeful the other day not, and yes I know a lot of that is self generated by my thoughts.

If this is a MLC, it started 10 years ago, and I don't know I can stick out another 10 years of this garbage and his dissatifaction.

At this moment, my instincts tell me to cut my losses and forget him and the 26 years we spent together. Burn it all, start fresh and completely remove myself from his access. New location, new home, change my number, change my name and go underground. That's what my instincts tell me. Reality is a different animal.

I have worth and value and if he can't see it, then perhaps someone else would be thrilled to be around me, have me as a partner, and actually like me just as I am for who I am NOW.

I won't have to be the one that has to continually change to keep a relationship functioning, turning myself inside out every time he decides that the relationship, or I'm not good enough for him.

Many of my friends and family feel I have done all I can and there is no more left to do. Some have flat out told me in their opinion he stabbed me in the back and twisted the knife too.

In my view, he certainly doesn't value our relationship,and is quite willing to let our children suffer ( they are 9&13). "They'll adapt.", he and his counselor say. "Kids are resiliant."

As for me; my perception is that for him, I'm just the mother of his kids, nothing more.