I get what you are saying, but I think there are people who do overcome their spouse working with the OM. Also, I don't know if my wife was at the level of connectedness to this guy that your's was. Your's is a heartbreaking tale and one i'm scared of. But There are ton of details that you don't know about my situation.
I can't make her quit her job. I can't do that. 1. She wouldn't and 2. if I could some how she'd resent me for the rest of my life and I'd lose her anyway. This isn't some 9-5 space filler she goes to. She went to school for nearly 20 years to get where she is at. She has her Ph.D. This her dream job. if I could even take that away, she'd hate me for it.
I'd love for her to quit the job, but I think it's a fools errand in some ways because just because someone quits a job doesn't mean that the won't feel connected. Like your W, do you think she would have automatically stopped her feelings just because they weren't working? it sounds like it was so strong that she felt she couldn't overcome it. With technology today, temptation is just a phone call, text or email away...even if they don't work with them. I mean there are couple of SAHM's on here who had EA or PAs. People who had EA with OP thousands of miles away.
I do get what you are saying though.
I don't know what Hartley's refers too.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
