I thought that a phone call or a text every week or so did not cost me anything...
But I learned it does.
I struggle with this every day. Her version of our history is still so far from my own. Her connection to OM has blinded her to what is true. I hang up in pain every time.
I wish I could just avoid her for a day. But I can't go without speaking to my kids at bedtime.
I'm envious you've found that 'place'. I fear I will only find it through resignation and exhaustion.