Alamo my H has always made decisions without talking to me first. Right down to spending large amounts of money and then coming home broke and expecting me to be able to pay all the bills. I guess my expectations of h are way to high. This is going to be a big change for the kids. I have always been the rock in this M. He has always been the one to run if things were tough. I am trying my best not to be there for him to lean on. That is one of my 180.
This afternoon H wanted to come and get the snow blower. I asked if he could do it in the morning. He said no, he needed it right now. I texted back, ok I will pull it out of the shop. When are u coming? He says in a couple of hours. So 3 hours later he doesn't show up. I text that I would like to put it away if he is not coming. H say, fine put it away you didn't want me there anyways.
I didn't respond. H texts again a little later...you know you are preventing me from working and it will effect you to. whats next? All I text back (after raging for a few minutes) sorry you feel that way.
That ended the convo after that text. At least so far.
Head is spinning but I am still dancing!
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
