Harrier, this strictly taken from my experience.... When W came back to me she was 100% COMMITTED to loving me and making up for what she did... More than anything in the world she wanted to make it work with me.... I did absolutely everything that a good husband would do... took her breath away with surprises, we spent lots of quality time together... communication was solid (although she wasn't completely honest with me) we went on weekly date night.. finances were good...family life was amazing...She was completely happy except we just couldn't connect emotionally even though I poured my heart out to her...she couldn't reciprocate. Why u ask...
Because you can only be CONNECTED with 1 person at a time. Despite her best efforts to shut him out, try to block him from her life, be cold to him...she did her best. After 4 months she couldn't fight her feelings because they can't change when they are always tempted... Affairs are very much like drugs.. Read on the internet people that are stuck in the tangled webs of affairs.. they know what is right, but they just can't do the right thing... It FEELS to good to let go.... Read Hartley's extraordinary precautions to stay away from the affair partner. It is the only way I can see reconciliation can take place.
If I could do it over, I would have made her quit her job...lost the house...whatever, it took. I honestly feel that we had 0% chance of making it work without complete separation from him.
