W Left almost 3 months ago

[Denver_2010]

I've come to realize that it's not so much that she left but that I hurt her so much without even knowing it, if that makes sense.

In a way I guess I took her for granted but I never meant to I just felt so confortable with her. The one person I could really trust.

That is why some of the techniques of acting "as if" or getting a life and acting as if everything is fine might not work with her because she always felt like I didn't care anyways. I wanted her to know I was hurting to that I did care. She said “you don't know what you have till it's gone. Just please don't make the same mistakes next time around"

Anyways.....How do I join this club? Is there a thread or something?

All of your thoughts on your sitch that I quoted above are exactly how I feel about my W and I. You are not alone here. What you have to do is learn from this. Make it your goal to come out of this a better person so that you don't make the same mistake again in your next R... whether that's with your W or someone new. I said it like that bc you have to look at it as though your former M to W is gone... you don't want that. You want a new M with W.

No particular thread for our club. It has mainly been on FellOnBlackDays and mine. But we're all over man!

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Denver