SC, I dont know what is to become of your marriage. Really, I dont.
But I do know what can happen for you, if you let it.
Most of what your h says, in some form or another, we have all heard. If he is in a MLC, this is par for the course. His memories are all skewed. He's unhappy and doesnt know why. So, he is going to blame the person closest to him.
It cant be him, so it must be you. They rewrite history. MOST of what they say is untrue.
But, if you read between the lines, you might be able to see some stuff that rings true.
Maybe he didnt want you to take care of everything. Maybe he didnt want you to be so in control. I wasnt there, so I dont know.
What I do know is that the complaints my h had about me had elements of truths in them.
So, I had to figure out what I wanted to take from that and change those things for me. I had to see what things needed to be addressed. And it wasnt easy.
Look, there have been marriages where the MLCer moved thousands of miles away for years, and others where the MLCer was horrendous to the spouse and the marriages were restored.
It is up to you to decide if you want to try. And if you do, maybe your marriage wont be saved. But I promise you this, you will not regret it if you take this journey.
It will be hard. You will be pushed and challenged. You will get angry and sad and everything in between. But, oh, how you'll grow!
If you're in, strap your seatbelt on, cuz its gonna be a bumpy ride.
If you're in, you will meet some of the most incredible, compassionate, intelligent, loyal people in the world.
If you're in you will be forever changed. . So, the ball is in your court. Are you in or out?
