She obviously is not swayed by things you are doing or saying, such as the changes you have made or your readiness to have kids. So you must back off, I'd say entirely. Let her contact you to do any more talking. Sounds like there is at least a speck of doubt in her mind about all this, that things will not be OK if she does go thru with this. So I would let her stew on that for as long as possible. If you avoid communicating with her, there is a much better CHANCE that she will get to second guessing this. You need to hope she wonders what you're thinking and what you're doing when you're not communicating with her.
All that said, that can't really be your mindframe while you're away from her either. You need to do your best to gain a positive, independent mindframe here. You can't hold your breath waiting for her to second guess things, you just have to hope she will. The GAL'ing really is paramount here.
One more thing, if you feel the urge to puruse her, ask yourself why you feel that urge. You know you shouldn't, but it's hard to resist doing things like writing her letters and asking her to lunch. I posted this to someone else a short while ago...let's absurdly say they discontinued paper and you couldn't write her a letter. You'd still want to, right? You have to understand what causes you that urge to pursue her, and eliminate at it at this juncture of things.
As always, I wish you well.
M-34 XW-32 D-7 Found OM's presence 4/09 Separated 12/09 Divorced 8/10 GREAT relationship as coparents since 8/10
