Well for one thing I need to do a lot of validating in my case. My wife feels as if I have really ran her down. I need to let her know that it is ok to take time that it is ok if she goes through with the D and that I respect her for taking action. If she ever needs someone to talk to she can call anytime.
Also if she does initiate contact to ask for her opinion and then thank her for giving it.
One thing I forgot to mention when we spoke earlier today at one point I was about to hang up and I said "ok babe oh I mean (her name) sorry it just kind of slipped" it really did she started to laugh and said "it's ok I don't get mad at that" I was surprised.
I use the quotations so that I stay true to the comments and don't read into anything. This way I really get good advice based on her actual words and I get good advice based on my response.
