It's obvious your H needs help. What happened after the first one? Did you go into MC? What are his reasons that he goes outside the M?

I would confront your H about the OW. Do you know who she is?

My suggestion is to not go to Retrouvaille. Actually I've heard that you can't go if someone is in an active A since there has to be total openess.

Sorry that you find yourself here, but we'll see how we can help.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER