Start off with a note. That's a good idea. Consider it a peace offering to open dialogue. Keep it short and simple. Just a nice. Hello. I wanted to see how you were doing. marmie.
He may respond back in anger but be prepared for it. It was a bad idea to show up with his friend because it gave the impression that everyone is on your "side" and that he has nowhere else to turn to. What you caught him doing was embarassing enough, but when you brought in his friend, your pastor, etc. into the mix, what was once a private shame of his is now public for the world to see. So where do you think he turned to? Not to anyone else, but back to his computer.
It will be hard for him to get over the humiliation of it all just so you're warned. One suggestion is to defend him rather than condemn him. I'm not saying you're defending his actions, but defend him as your husband. In that position, you know when to give in and when to stand firm. For example, if someone asks you "how is that sex pervert husband of yours?" (because they've heard rumors), you can answer that you don't appreciate him being called that and it is a private matter between you and him and no one else.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
