Thank you guys so much for responses! I think the actual affair itself would be easier to accept over the lying about it!!!!!! We've been together 21 years and you have to lie to me????? I'm the man I was supposed to go sexually crazy during the separation!!! lol I stayed true to my vows better or worse good times and bad. I am wondering even though I have made terrific progress these past several weeks if it's even worth it! I'm in pain and unable to talk to her about it or tell her I love her while she is out partying!!!! Who needs this crap! I'm so tired of being played the fool! But yeah, I love the girl !Wish I could cut that part out of me. Life would be so easy if it were me who didn't care!