Ok I need to read something positive on here today. This is tougher than I thought.
He called me twice yesterday 1st time to tell me he wanted to pick up S2 on Friday, I didn't ask questions just said ok. He said kiss my babies for me. Then today I get a call from his sister who tells me he is officially moving out on Friday. I put 2 and 2 together and figured he wants to spend time with S2 because OW will be there and S2 can’t tell me this. Mind you, he has only spent time with S2 once in a year. I'm hesitant on letting him go now only because my dear H denies he has a cell phone because he probably feels he'll be cheating on OW if he gives it to me and refused to tell me where he is moving to. I have told him on 2 occasions that our kids are not to be around OW and I will not let them stay at his apartment especially not knowing where it is. Am I being controlling...I don't think so our kids are small I don't know OW for all I know she can be a drug addict/alcoholic. How do I go about my issue with H where he doesn't feel I'm being a B***** but be firm as well.
So my SIL (his sister) tells me that him and OW have been arguing a lot on the phone lately. On Tuesday she heard him telling her "you ask too many questions, you're getting on my nerves", hangs up on her and doesn't pick up when she calls him back several times. Uhummm, thought the grass is greener on the other side! I don't want to assume things but she said I have a feeling she was asking him questions about you and he got annoyed because he misses you and he feels bad for all he put you guys through. I'm not getting my hopes up that he may be coming to his senses but this is a good thing IMO.
I've been doing so good. I have detached almost completely, never call him, answer only some of his calls, end the convo first, and never ask questions. This is good right? The only questionable thing about the detachment I have is that he has pulled away also he doesn't ask me much or tell me anything anymore.
Does anyone have any opinions on how I should handle the above?
Me:32 H:32 M:9 T:15 D:4 S:2 OW/PA: JANUARY 10 ILYBINILWY AUGUST 10 Goes and Comes July/September Moves out September Sep. since Sept.
