Big talk tonight. I am a wreck, need support.

[Sad_but_happy]

Hope,

Sounds like you're doing wonderfully. You are where I was a month ago. W and I don't fight and we are starting to have more fun. She is warming up more and more. Things are going well. To be honest she was only cold when I persued. After I stopped things really got better. Sounds the same for you. Keep it up.

The fact that he did all that to make your event tonight shows how much he does care about you. When I was checked out of my M my W would say things like:

Q: "Why won't you talk longer on the phone with me?"
A: "We see each other all the time. What is there to talk about?"

Q: "I can't wait to go on business trips with you when kids are older."
A: "You really want to go ob business trips?"

Q: "I can't wait until we retire and we can travel to Europe."
A: "I can't think that far ahead."

So I can now see how much those words hurt her. But then I didn't see it. I really didn't. I NEVER meant to hurt her. That's why you need to not only listen but also respond with a sence of concern for HER wants and HER dreams and HER desires. I believe he would not have moved his entire schedule if he didn't care. I know I wouldn't have...


I wanted to take some time out to answer your question about a mans ego...

Yes, ego plays a roll in a mans reaction to OM. Much like cavemen clubbing a woman over the head and dragging her into his cave by the hair, we believe our women are OURS! They belong to US. And when OM tries to take her away (our perception of it) we suddenly want to keep our posessions and fight to do so. Some threaten the OM, write letters to the OM, tell the OM's W, some even kill OM. We think to ourselves, "does OM not see the ring on W finger? What's his problem?" There IS more to it then that but from an animal perspective I believe that is our first INSTINCT.

Keep doing what you're doing Hope. And have fun tonight.