DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support 2

[ScaredinCanada]

[quote=ScaredinCanada...we just have no PERSONAL R at all...I told her a few weeks back that I am living with a ZOMBIE!

Hay Scared, try not telling her stuff like this. When we make snide comments, it makes them feel all the more estranged from us, all the more they want to escape because the situation is so tense.
Lately, I have been more successful in keeping the atmosphere at home in a lighter mood by avoiding my H when I see in his face that he is not in a good mood, I just leave the room and go upstairs, by reading in bed, pretending we are sharing a companionable silence, and generally not speaking unless spoken to. I talk to my daughter, laugh with her, sing, play with the dog, call my friends on the phone.

I compliment his cooking, and if he does not answer, I do not act like I am offended.
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Great advice Angel.

I guess I shouldn't even try to console her when she seems sad or upset. I should just ignore it and focus on the kids.

Even when I got home tonight, W was leaving to goto work. She had her head down a bit just looked sad. Just out of reaction I said "Is everything ok?" to which she quickly wiped the "sad" off her face and "Ya I'm fine". Then she went off to work.

Looking forward to spending the night with the girls and then going to hockey after they are to bed.