I'm not a vet on the board yet, but I think that it depends on the stage you are at in DBing. Habit, MJ, you guys, along with me, are in LRT. Our W's are not working on M. Therefore, showing them this stuff is pressuring and pursuing. If, when, we get them to that stage of working on M, then we can start sharing with them things that help BUILD the M.

Now, can a true vet weight in on this? smile

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce