DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support 2

[angel61]

[quote=ScaredinCanada...we just have no PERSONAL R at all...I told her a few weeks back that I am living with a ZOMBIE![/quote]

Hay Scared, try not telling her stuff like this. When we make snide comments, it makes them feel all the more estranged from us, all the more they want to escape because the situation is so tense.
Lately, I have been more successful in keeping the atmosphere at home in a lighter mood by avoiding my H when I see in his face that he is not in a good mood, I just leave the room and go upstairs, by reading in bed, pretending we are sharing a companionable silence, and generally not speaking unless spoken to. I talk to my daughter, laugh with her, sing, play with the dog, call my friends on the phone.

I compliment his cooking, and if he does not answer, I do not act like I am offended.