I don't know what to think anymore. Truly confused.
What I recommend first is to stop and breathe. No sense in both of you being out to lunch...
IF ....this is MLC, it's gonna get a lot worse before it gets better, and the better you can learn to deal with it, the better you will feel through it.
Take the time to read through the resources Cadet posted to you. Understanding the monster known as MLC will help you. Not every MLC is the same , just as every person is the same. Each one is as individual as the person having it. Although most of what you see and hear will resemble what each of us has gone through at some point.
Try to focus on you for now. You have to be there for your children, and losing yourself is not what is best for them right now....
There are no guarantees that your marriage will be saved through this, although the changes that you will go through during this time, will afford you to have the best chance to make the best choices for your future. And that future just may include a relationship with your spouse.
If this is MLC, nothing you do will help him through the tunnel any faster than he can go. No amount of pressure or guilt will cause him to walk any faster.
Try to apply DB-101 whenever possible...especially the things that you can do for you...
Also find some of the girls here and read their entire situations, post to them, many will shadow the things you are feeling, and going through.
Maybe some more about you.....
What are your goals for you ?
What are some of his complaints about you ?
Things that "sting" you should take a look at in depth, to see if they are valid or not. Then choose how you want to address them.
This is a long hard road to walk, but one that is so worth the trip if you allow it....
