DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[MrBond]

"My wife says she does not like sex because it makes her feel like a human dildo."

I think she got the sexes mixed up. LOL

IMO it may seem like a game, but all you're doing is going back to how you were before you were married. You probably cared about how you looked, dressed, etc. And after you got married (like the rest of us) maybe let that side go. You don't do it to attract your W. You do it because it makes you feel like a million bucks.

Think about it this way. If you start being healthier, looking better, it benefits you. Whether your W wants to enjoy it, that's up to her. And it doesn't have to be just physical. Is there anything you've ever wanted to learn or do just for the hell of it? Then do it.

That's what gets your self-esteem and happiness back. That's what gets your confidence back.

It's why I encourage those with negative sounding post names to get one that shows a more positive image. It's a small shift, but that small shift can start the change into a better you.

But then that's my .02.