Good advice. I just gave a list to my W told her that the rest would have to be worked out by L's if we got D. I then trusted her to abide by the list. I left town.

Bond is correct on you being excited to have your own place. Again some personal experience. After W moved out, I bought new decor (since most of the previous stuff had been W's) and redecorated the house to my liking. She came back to the house to pick up a few things that she had missed in original move. She texted me afterwards that it was sad to see her house not her house anymore and that I never did need her.

You want to get the point across that this may be the last time that she is in her house, do it in subtle ways rather than telling her. I really don't advice that FOBD. It just sounds manipulative to me. She may drive away resenting you for saying it.

BITS!
Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce