DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support 2

[ScaredinCanada]

"it's fine if you did, I'm ok with that" -

Believe zero of what they say. If she was truly fine and ok with it, she wouldn't have asked.

"She also trying to validate what she's doing" -

How do you know Scared? Stop trying to mind read... unless you really believe that you can. I try this too... it doesn't work for me. Only frustrates.

"Again I think she is hoping that she can just stay sitting on the f*%king fence and eventually I'll make the decision to leave and then she won't be the bad person."

- Who's better at the game of chicken Scared? You or your W? Can you stare down your W on this? Be more patient? If the answer is "yes", then start BEING patient and STOP worrying about what your W is doing or thinking right now.

I hear you Denver. I'm mostly doing my backslidding on this forum. I haven't spoken to my W today, I didn't speak with her at bedtime last night. I likely won't talk to her tonight because she is going to work.

I know what your saying about believing zero what they say...it's just hard when they push your buttons.

I'll be good, just slipping a bit.