Thanks Al! I know I think I still have that 'magical thinking' or denial thing way strong in me...I have this way of experiencing something bad and then in a matter of hours/days I turn it all around in my head.
It can be good, as my son said last month, "Mommy how can you always take something bad and make it into something good??"
But it can also be bad. I can be upset remembering the times Dan chewed me out for accusing him of cheating and making me into the crazy paranoid bad guy. ME, his wife, mother of his kids, lover and supposed best friend???
But then I will think of the time he had 20 freaternity brothers serenade me when he proposed, and of the time we spend 5 yrs ago in Mexico lounging on the beach and genuinely enjoying being together...and I focus on the good and forget the bad.
I always said I had the grudge factor of a gnat, I just don't hold on to thing that hurt me. But yet in this case I know I should...
