This is a state that you will need to expect for months to come. You cannot read anything into his moods, actions, reactions, words, or messages he may send. If you try to figure him out, you'll lose yourself along the way. You have to be prepared with a plan for yourself.
First step in your plan needs to be "No mind reading into anything from him". Hope for the best....but prepare for the worst. If you begin looking for any positive signs at this point, I'm concerned you will constantly feel disappointed.
Again, I'm not telling you not to try to work on your M. I I think having another opportunity is great. But you are seeing it from one viewpoint and he is thinking entirely differently about moving back into the house.
The ONLY reason he's being nice is b/c he "needs" you to allow him to live there, since he can't make it financially. Expect and prepare for the times he will not be nice (after he moves back). What is the plan?
Stay realistic about OW. She may not want him sponging off of her, but that doesn't mean she's out of the picture. Believe nothing you hear him say and only half of what you see him do.
So.....onward with a plan. What do you plan to do when he doesn't show up with his half of payment on something? It will happen, so be ready with a plan.
You just can't fly by the seat of your pants and think it's all going to fall into a lovely place. Have a fall-back plan ready for action for whatever negative thing he throws your way.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
