I am so sorry that you are having a hard time with this. I feel for you and I am sure that I will be going through the same exact emotions when my H finds his apt. Couple of things:
1)I really like the idea of trying to delay this a week and if that can be done, then great. Bond has some AWESOME ideas here. If not, is there anyone who can be there with you during this process just to add some moral support? Maybe your sister or another male friend? This way you don’t feel like you are so alienated and outnumbered. 2)I find it very interesting that your W suddenly doesn’t like her current place and is now looking forward to new place. It’s kind of like what Michele is alluding to in their books. Sometimes our WAS’s are looking for something and right now they seem convinced that it’s a divorce. It’s like something is empty inside of them and they are looking to fill the void. So what I find interesting here is that she tried apt #1 – and was still empty. So what happens at apt #2? I’ll tell you this much, the furniture isn’t going to fill the void.
You need to keep working the program and we are all so proud of you and the work that you have done already. Denver was right to point out that you need to get mentally prepared for this and I’m glad he did that so you didn’t get caught off guard when this really happens. I’m glad he said that for me as well. But you have done good work, she is still clearly softening and I don’t think she’s going to be able to fill that void she’s looking to fill.
All of us will be around this weekend for you, FOBD. You have been the cheerleader for so many of us. Please take care of yourself. And remember, that there is nothing wrong with you and your reactions which are normal just don’t let her see it, ok? Do your meltdowns here. We are all on YOUR side!!! I am praying so hard for you right now.
