dbmod yes she didn't tell me to date others. i got that idea from reading all sorts of other material. still at a very confused stage. dating someone really didn't make me feel too much better. I went home crying for an hour. although it did make me feel that I am still attractive enough that if I want to there are other men out there who wants me. Just that, my heart still belongs to my husband. I am trying so hard to make myself feel better and put on an act. Sigh.