Need advice please!!! Not sure on next move?

[FellOnBlackDays]

Dixie,
One more thing that might help you to have faith in my post. For 3 1/2 months, I jumped ever time my W said jump because I was too scared to fight back. If you read my sitch, you know that last Tuesday night I finally laid down some law on my part. I did with a kind voice and a smile on my face, but she knew I meant business. I stated the following:

1) I will no longer accept contact via electronic means. If you want to talk with me, you will call me. No exceptions.

2) Since we are not really married according to you, the next time I see you I will expect you to deliver the very expensive engagement ring and anniversary band I bought you. She cried a bit when I told her this, but I didn't flinch.

3) I also told her since she has not paid a single bill toward our home in four months that I would be taking her house keys that evening. Once again, she flinched, seemed a bit taken back. I did not flinch. She tried to leave without giving them to me, but I politely reminded her and she gave them up.

Our entire communication sitch has now changed since I decided to take some control back. Suddenly I am no longer this sniveling cry-baby begging her to come home. I showed her that I too can end this thing. I showed her that I have my own control in this thing and I am now willing to use it. The best part is I didn't do it in a sh*tty or mean way. I was calm, collected and even held her hand at one point while I did it. But I did it and she now knows that I too can mean business.

I highly recommend giving this a try. Remember, don't be spiteful or say it with a cocky "hey, screw you" attitude. Be polite, smile, maybe include a slight touch, BUT LAY DOWN SOME LAW. He will leave that meeting with some serious thoughts to deal with.

Good luck!

FOBD