Dixie, I have to agree with Bond and Denver. You are letting this guy get away with murder. I hope I am not overstepping my role here, but it really seems like he is using you as his fall-back. That is not right and not fair to you. You deserve better than that as a human being and a W. It is time for you to start doing some serious DB'ing. Start making him think that he could lose you forever. He will either get his head straight and come around or he will move on. But, you can't keep living this way. You only get one life, don't spend yours with a person who sees you as his "insurance policy" at best. Next time he says he "misses you," don't respond. Make him say it again before you respond. The more he has to say it the more he will have to think about what he is doing. Come on, girl!
I second the notion that this is NOT your final chance. Don't look at it that way. Until one of you moves to China or passes on to another world, there is always a chance. Heck, I have an aunt and an uncle that have divorced and remarried twice. Really long story.
Pull yourself up and make him start to worry. Put some of this pain and heartache and indecision in his court for a period. It might change his outlook on your R.
Keep us posted!
B.I.T.S.
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
