Oh boy, what do I do?

[Denver_2010]

Read much of your other thread. My advice on the auto club stands. Just don't do anything that will push him away even farther than he is now.

Have you consider MLC for your H? This is not something that I have read much about on this site, but there is another forum dedicated to it. The way that you describe H makes me think that it is something you should consider.